Bondage Play

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Bondage is probably the most generic and socially acceptable BDSM term we have, so any form of bondage play can be vast and wide. 

If you want to hone in on your flavour start with discovering your kink profile and love language if you want to create and own your sacred experience. 

The B in BDSM stands for Bondage and most of the DSM has bondage within that play. 

Bondage means to restrain a Lover. 

For some people, it might be in the context of a Slave or Submissive, while for others it’s more kink and hedonism. 

You can go from a beginner’s form of bondage and ease your way in, then work your way up to something more extreme. Whatever you do, I always recommend that it’s a conversation you have with your lover for open and honest communication around desires, pain threshold, safe words and to find that sweet spot of what works for both of you. Consent and benevolence is the foundation of all epic BDSM and kink play. 

BDSM holds no place for judgment! It is about one thing and one thing only, TRUST.

BDSM means- Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism.

Inside Bondage Play. 

Decide how you want to be restrained or restrain your Lover– handcuffs, rope, St Andrew’s cross or spreader? 

Then what do you want to do or receive once you’re restrained or you’ve restrained? 

You can get a variety of restraints that are practical for whatever room you’re in-doors, bed, bed heads- no bed heads, standing, sitting… it’s endless. 

Think textures and senses. 

You’ll want to have a variety of textures to tantalise the skin and play with arousal and stimulation. You want to draw out the experience as much as possible to play with edging, where you intensify and ease off when arousal is around an 8 out of 10.

Different textures might be leather, feather, hot, cold, sharp and soft. 

Senses– sight, sound, touch, taste and smell… deprive one to heighten another and change it up. 

Begin with a sense- for example, a ball gag and a blindfold, start with a softer texture and work your way up in intensity, then ease back down. If you using a ball gag only leave it in for 10 mins max, to begin with, so you’ll want to sit on their face before you take it off… that will raise the intensity very quickly!

Work your way through the senses and the textures, as much as you want to change it up, you also don’t want to change it up too much because you’ll overload the senses, especially if they’re new to it. Ease in gently and think about how you’re feeling and use that are you feeling playful, wild, confident or maiden like? 

Honour what’s alive in you because that creates the most sacred experience. 

Communicate, direct and speak! 

If you’re in charge, take control and let your intuition guide you. 

Make sure you both have time after to come down gently and ensure you have an aftercare plan in place. 

Have fun!!! 

 

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