Let’s Talk About Sex… The Series.

Let's Talk About Sex ... The Series

It’s something that plays such a major part in our lives and yet it’s something we really have to stumble through… including our first orgasm.

Now a gazillion orgasms later and many years later I feel that there are important things we can all benefit from.

Consider this has your guide to exploring your own sexuality and improving your sex life and I will roll out a little series for you… *Ooo it’s getting hot in here…

My journey with sexuality has been an interesting one, for many years in my monogamous relationship with two kids I thought the best sex was behind me, sex was frequent and good… but those mind blowing exchanges were not a part of my every day life.

One day I was with a client and I realised something that changed my life forever, the belief that great sex was behind me was just a belief and one I could change.

Vanilla sex doesn’t have to boring, it can be beautiful and epic, that is where I begun. I changed my thoughts around my sexuality and how I showed up… but there were a few beliefs I had around what sex in a long-term relationship looked like, and they weren’t even mine, just ones that I took on from other people.

Sex Myth.

  1. You have to have sex a minimum of 3 times a week.
  2. You should “put out” even if you don’t feel like it and you’ll get into it.
  3. You have the best sex when you’re single and in the early stages of a relationship.
  4. Sex = love and happiness in a relationship.
  5. It doesn’t matter if you don’t orgasm. 

The 5 Things I STOPPED Doing When It Came To Sex.

  1. I stopped thinking about sex as something I did with my partner and thought about the connection I had to my own pleasure.
  1. I stopped having sex when I really didn’t want to.
  1. I stopped getting annoyed when I wanted to and my partner didn’t. (Queue rejection issues) I started to honour where we were at on any given day and dropped all expectations.
  1. I stopped having sex with my partner when he needed a release.
  1. I stopped assuming he knew what I wanted and liked.


The intention you bring towards sex is far more important than how often you have it!!!
  • Every morning I put my hands on my womb and tuning into her, expressing gratitude and giving thanks for everything she has been through. Affirming “I honour and invite the sacred wisdom of my Womb to surface now. Please guide me into my own healing in a way that will serve me with the most love. Thank you”.

*Doing this action alone I realised I was multi-orgasmic. Who knew!

  • I discovered what my Love Language was and invested in some toys that were aligned to my Love Language.

My Love Language is Quality Time and Physical touch so anything brings presence and connection that activates my senses is awesome. (I will tell you what I started with below.)

  • I widened my perception around what pleasure is and how it feels, calling in and speaking to the parts of me that has been suppressed for so long.
  • Communication!!! Often womxn don’t communicate with their partner about what they want, like and don’t like. We opened up a judgment free zone where we are able to communicate freely.
  • We made it a priority.

Sometimes it’s frequent and sometimes it’s not, but the exchange is always sacred and that is way more satisfying and honouring to each other, our relationship and ourselves.

We have now ventured into other territory and delved further into realms that I’ll share more about later in the series… so stick around because it’s going to get juicy!

For now, you can start by- 

  1. Thinking about what you want your sex life to feel, look and be.
  2. Rewrite your relationship with pleasure.
  3. What beliefs do you need to let go of?
  4. Know you Love Language and your partners if you have one.
  5. Connect to your womb everyday and make it a ritual, commit to it for 40 days.
  6. Get some toys!


As promised the toys I first invested in…

Kama Sutra Massage Candle

Tantra Feather Teaser

Cock ring

Lelo Vibrator.

Lingerie (of course!)

Lingerie for D cup to K cup, back sizes AU 6 to 26.



How we do one thing is how we do everything so this is well worth exploring!


Part Two of the Let’s Talk About Sex Series!